Where Can I Find a Friend?

by Jenean Layne

Have you ever heard other ladies say (or thought it yourself), "I just wish the Lord would give me one close lady friend that I could share and pray with?" It seems we are often craving fellowship, but in our world of busy schedules, it can be hard to make friendships. We have our responsibilities at home, church and work, and never enough hours in the day. There may be times in our lives when this desire for fellowship has even caused discontent and depression. But, God has provided for us the answer to this dilemma.

In our quest for fellowship, we need to look to the friends God has already provided for us and be thankful for them (Eph. 5:20). God has given us sources of fellowship in our families! When focusing on the "close friend" that we don't have, we take for granted the relationships we do have. God would have us be grateful for what He has provided. He instituted the family to be a primary source from which our need for fellowship is filled (Gen. 2:18-33). God gave Eve to Adam as a helper to complete him. Nothing else in God's creation could fulfill Adam's need for fellowship. God designed the family (Eph 5:21-6:4); it is His plan that we find fellowship, contentment, and peace within it.

Because God instituted and designed the family, He has described our roles within it. God instructs us to love and be obedient to our husbands, to love our children, and to be keepers at home (Titus 2:3-5). As ladies, our ministry is our home! To extend this ministry to others, His Word tells us we are to be teachers of His design for the family. We are to model and teach others to be "in behavior as becometh holiness." As we fellowship with other ladies, we are either instructors or students of God's design and purpose. Not only are we called to be instructors and students with our sisters-in-Christ, but also encouragers. We are to build each other up in the faith and speak words of encouragement (Rom. 14:19, I Thes. 5:11). A New Testament church gives us the opportunity to meet with our sisters-in-Christ and to carry out God's instructions. We can come to worship our Savior together and fulfill our desire for human fellowship at the same time.

God has given the family and the church to provide emotional, physical, and spiritual relationships. But, what if we still don't feel that our need for fellowship has been met? We need to go to our "Friend that sticketh closer than a brother" (Prov. 18:24). When we experience God's fellowship (His love an care for us) the need for that "one close friend" is satisfied. We can be thankful and content with the fellowship He has already provided for us. God is teaching us that, though people will let us down at times, He is always faithful (Psa. 73:26). Our Lord is there with forgiveness (1 John 1:9), with understanding (Heb. 4:15), and to catch us when we are falling into a pit of despair (Deut. 33:27). Not only has God provided us with the human fellowship we need, He is there for us at all times, to commune with and rest upon! Praise God and thank Him for His wonderful gift of friendship through Jesus Christ our Savior!.